S hould we just “Go with the flow”? It’s printed on the back of my cell phone case with a big happy whale. It’ adorable and inspiring, but is it always the best advice? And who’s flow are we following? I’ve found that the longer we think about these questions the more the flow branches out into the other streams of our lives. It becomes a deeper question that can apply to almost anything.
So how does allowing life to unfold as it does, AKA going with the flow, help when your friendship is falling apart?
You can be yourself around them, show your truest self, vent your problems to them, and just have fun. Sometimes it could be at their expense, your own, or some one else’s, but in that moment it doesn’t seem to matter as long as you’re laughing together. Most of all, it’s that time together that’s what you need. Sometimes you need their attention, their loving energy. But more often than not, you need their approval. It’s great seeing their heads nod in agreement. They’re the ones that understand you. They fill the times when you’re bored and when you feel alone. Alone, like on a hot summer day when you have nothing planned but the day is full of potential. Or alone, like when no one else understands how you feel. Friends, whether just one or dozens, have the potential to make our lives fuller, more adventurous, more loving, and more meaningful. So why is friendship so hard?