It doesn’t really matter how old you are when your family expresses disapproval, it can still have an effect on you. You could be a teenager or an adult with children of your own, and shame or blame from family still has the potential to hurt.
You may or may not know why it still has the power to deeply hurt you after you’ve grown up or moved on from such drama. Or you may fully realize your family’s potential to dump negative feelings on to you, yet still feel taken aback when it happens. Their disapproval may or may not be constant, nor in regard to everything you do or who you are, but when it happens, it effects you nonetheless.
Regardless of what stage you’re at when close family puts you down or expresses negativity towards you, there are tools to help your spirit through it.